Ok, this is what I found on another M.B., it is both scary and fascinating, a bit long, I'm sorry about that.

Her So-Called Life
By CleanupHitter


The good news is that Kaycee Nicole, known as Kutebabe to many CollegeClub members, isn't dead. The bad news is that she isn't alive, either. She isn't ANYTHING, in fact, except a work of fiction. An Internet hoax that drew untold numbers across the world into a saga of a young girl's battle with leukemia and, eventually, her death.
While the news of her "passing" on May 14 hit the Internet community hard, those who considered themselves to be friends of Kaycee were hit even harder when doubts began to be raised about the reality of her existence.
What Happened
Here's a short version of this convoluted tale -- to the best of anyone's knowledge -- that has been gleaned from Kaycee's Web traffic, correspondence shared by others and subsequent media accounts:
A few years back a young girl in the Oklahoma City area created an imaginary Web persona named Kaycee Nicole. At some point, the girl's mother, Debbie Swenson, took over the persona, claiming to be a 19-year-old athletic girl with leukemia, and joined various Internet communities, including CollegeClub.com.
In her various weblogs, Swenson/Kaycee told of her battles with the disease -- her treatments, her periods of remission, her relapses -- remaining optimistic throughout. Over a period of about two years, the ongoing story drew a devoted group of followers and well-wishers, many of whom sent gift certificates or other small tokens to a post office box established in Kaycee's name, even though gifts apparently were never actually solicited.
Her contacts and online relationships grew -- people began to consider themselves to be friends with Kaycee, e-mailing daily and even speaking to someone on the phone who claimed to be her. Requests for Kaycee to come visit various places started pouring in, including some with offers to pay for all trip expenses. It got to be too much for Swenson, so she killed off Kaycee.
But there were holes in the story -- photos were posted of a girl playing basketball, inconsistencies in what Swenson posted -- and they were soon discovered by an Internet community wanting to learn what really happened.
The truth soon came out, leaving many dealing with a mix of emotions -- relief that a friend had not actually died, anger at having been lied to for so long, confusion as to why a 40-year-old mother of two would invest so much time impersonating a 19-year-old girl (you psych majors should have a ball with this).
"I don't know if I should be mad, sad or what.," CC member SCbelle4u said on the Kaycee Nicole Aftermath MessageBoard. "I guess I'm still confused by all of this, like the majority of you all."
Friendship via Keyboard
The saga also raises the larger question of the validity of online relationships. Without face-to-face interaction, and no way of verifying what the other person is claiming to be, can the friendship be considered real? "It makes me wonder if everything that people ever say is real, and if the people I've become close to over the few years I've been online are who they say they are." MelaniChire said. "It comes to the point that I don't know whom to trust and whom I can confide in about things. I like to think I can believe that my friends online are real people who represent themselves honestly, because I try to do that."
More than a year ago a collection of articles ran on CollegeClub.com about handling a romantic online relationship. In that series, the author referred to people having what they considered to be a boyfriend or girlfriend (Online Significant Others, he called them) without ever having met in person. While there were some posts questioning whether such interactions could be construed as true friendships, the vast majority were of the position that online relationships were real and valid.
A Question of Trust
It remains to be see if this elaborate and long-running hoax will have a lasting effect on the openness of those who frequent Internet communities, so we ask you, the CollegeClub community, for your thoughts. How do you feel about Swenson's lies and the issue of online friendships? Offering his own view, CC's CaptainKaya one of Kaycee's "friends," says this: "If this is this price to pay for trusting people, than I'll take it. I hope this doesn't kill the innocence left on the Web."
Do you agree with his sentiments? Did you interact with Kaycee? Post your thoughts on the message board to the right.

By Dave Hedgehog on Tuesday, June 25, 2002 - 06:39 pm:

I've had her

By DJ Wiggaman on Wednesday, June 26, 2002 - 03:02 am:

I am a DJ, I am what I play.

By Hallie Nittaya on Thursday, June 27, 2002 - 03:57 am:

Cam, I believe we connect through intellect on the internet, but each person has a physical personality as well, you can't forget that. So even if you connect on one level, there are discordances linking mind to body. Differences in interpretation and choice of acting method, of movement. Of style. It may not be very difficult to overcome if it's loose friendship in mind, but the idea of "online significant others" described abve? That sounds like something that can easily be taken too seriously. There's delicious pain in a desire for something you can't touch, and it's easy to assert yourself when unshackled from certain forms of self-awareness. But you need something living to press on to, before it's right to feel that this thing can be yours. The physical compatibility here probably matters more than your shared love of quantum probability theory.

It would be awful if we started thinking too much on the few major cases of Deception like that mentioned above. But it's like any friendship, you take a risk. The comment about a small price to pay, and a hope to keep innocence, is a true standpoint in my mind. There are many examples contrary to the Kaycee story that offer comfort.

Oh, Karla, my favourite Hip song just came on, the line goes "Do I make you scared?...", it's pretty, one of the few I like. Do you know which it is? (ooh, now it's BRMC, "never thought I'd rather die than try to keep her by my side, now she's gone..." it's a nice sleepy song, lull away)

Have a good day, everyone!
~ Nat.

By BIG BILL on Thursday, June 27, 2002 - 01:19 pm:

YOU'VE SURE HAD A LOT OF BIRDS, DAVE MATE! EVEN A LUEKEMIA SUFFERER IN A WHEELCHAIR! THAT'S WHAT I LIKE IN A MAN! NOT AFRAID TO HAVE A BLAST!

By Thomas Williams Junior on Sunday, June 30, 2002 - 08:30 pm:

Yeah!

By Parrot on Monday, July 1, 2002 - 11:17 am:

Yeah! Yeah! Yeah!

By An ape on Tuesday, July 2, 2002 - 09:47 am:

Yeah! Yeah! Yeah!

By Hooligan on Wednesday, July 3, 2002 - 11:44 pm:

Yeah!

By Hooligan on Wednesday, July 3, 2002 - 11:46 pm:

Are we all agreeing with BIG BILL here because of his size of what?
Come on Fat Bill! I'll take you on! Come on fatboy! Come and have a go if you think you're hard enough!
I eat tubbies like you for breakfast!

By BIG BILL on Thursday, July 4, 2002 - 01:39 pm:

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By Hooligan! on Thursday, July 4, 2002 - 08:14 pm:

Are you related to Big Brett by any chance? You are like a cheap and nasty prototype of him, lol. BRING BACK BRETTY! HAHAHABOOMBOOM!

By QUINTAL on Friday, July 5, 2002 - 05:44 pm:

I'm onto you, Hooligan!

By HOOLIGAN on Friday, July 5, 2002 - 08:27 pm:

I see we have another Big Brett fan here with the CAPS, lol.

By Scamp on Monday, July 15, 2002 - 01:44 am:

The other morning I had an odd conversation about 'characters' with an old school Blurchatter named Teddy J. He seemed a bit on guard and suspicious of a few people but wouldn't elaborate much. Anyway, in passing he asked me to relay a hi from him to Simon and Kenzie.

By Quintal on Monday, July 15, 2002 - 12:25 pm:

Teddy J! Aka Shadwick, if I remember correctly. He had quite a thing for the magnificent BRITGIRL, didnt he? Interesting.